Comments on: Sex in the City http://veryserious.org/2009/07/09/sex-in-the-city The world on weekdays, nothing on weekends Thu, 11 Mar 2010 01:58:03 -0800 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Joe http://veryserious.org/2009/07/09/sex-in-the-city/comment-page-1#comment-19868 Joe Fri, 17 Jul 2009 06:34:36 +0000 http://veryserious.org/?p=4269#comment-19868 "You know how taking an ess kind of feels good in a weird way? Well..." “You know how taking an ess kind of feels good in a weird way? Well…”

]]> By: phil http://veryserious.org/2009/07/09/sex-in-the-city/comment-page-1#comment-19865 phil Fri, 17 Jul 2009 06:03:01 +0000 http://veryserious.org/?p=4269#comment-19865 Exactly! Exactly!

]]> By: naida http://veryserious.org/2009/07/09/sex-in-the-city/comment-page-1#comment-19864 naida Fri, 17 Jul 2009 04:39:17 +0000 http://veryserious.org/?p=4269#comment-19864 I agree. I just meant no need to explain anal intercourse unless asked:) I agree. I just meant no need to explain anal intercourse unless asked:)

]]> By: phil http://veryserious.org/2009/07/09/sex-in-the-city/comment-page-1#comment-19799 phil Tue, 14 Jul 2009 16:15:28 +0000 http://veryserious.org/?p=4269#comment-19799 I remember when I was a kid (maybe 8) I read the word "condom" and so I asked my mom what the word meant and she said "It's something people use when they want to have sex but they don't want have kids". Also around the same time I asked her what "gay" meant and she said it's when a man wants to be with another man instead of with a woman, or where a woman wants to be with a woman. In both cases there were things she could have said to avoid talking about things that were supposed to be above my level but she gave me the benefit of the doubt and gave me the simple answer. I think that's the right way to do it. I remember when I was a kid (maybe 8) I read the word “condom” and so I asked my mom what the word meant and she said “It’s something people use when they want to have sex but they don’t want have kids”. Also around the same time I asked her what “gay” meant and she said it’s when a man wants to be with another man instead of with a woman, or where a woman wants to be with a woman.

In both cases there were things she could have said to avoid talking about things that were supposed to be above my level but she gave me the benefit of the doubt and gave me the simple answer.

I think that’s the right way to do it.

]]> By: naida http://veryserious.org/2009/07/09/sex-in-the-city/comment-page-1#comment-19786 naida Tue, 14 Jul 2009 02:57:30 +0000 http://veryserious.org/?p=4269#comment-19786 Oh for instance the "Vagina Monologues" quilt display in Ukiah was a definite opportunity to discuss the vagina. He could read and was young, maybe eight and wanted to know why there were quilts with vagina's on them. Good question. And a discussion followed. Oh for instance the “Vagina Monologues” quilt display in Ukiah was a definite opportunity to discuss the vagina. He could read and was young, maybe eight and wanted to know why there were quilts with vagina’s on them. Good question. And a discussion followed.

]]> By: naida http://veryserious.org/2009/07/09/sex-in-the-city/comment-page-1#comment-19785 naida Tue, 14 Jul 2009 02:54:22 +0000 http://veryserious.org/?p=4269#comment-19785 I think living in society opens up many opportunities to teach and parents should go for it. When explaining something to a child, a good way to handle their needs, is to answer the question they ask, specifically and keep it simple. In other words a five year old may say, "mommy what is that," referring to the graffiti. I would say hand and footprints, it's art, someone expressing ideas, etc. As they get older their questions will be more specific, thus prompting more descriptive answers. And if you have been open and helpful they will be ready for anything. My son is 12 and is able to comfortably tackle many issues that even adults struggle to discuss. Also he is not experienced, just aware:) I think living in society opens up many opportunities to teach and parents should go for it. When explaining something to a child, a good way to handle their needs, is to answer the question they ask, specifically and keep it simple. In other words a five year old may say, “mommy what is that,” referring to the graffiti. I would say hand and footprints, it’s art, someone expressing ideas, etc. As they get older their questions will be more specific, thus prompting more descriptive answers. And if you have been open and helpful they will be ready for anything. My son is 12 and is able to comfortably tackle many issues that even adults struggle to discuss. Also he is not experienced, just aware:)

]]> By: beth http://veryserious.org/2009/07/09/sex-in-the-city/comment-page-1#comment-19686 beth Thu, 09 Jul 2009 20:51:11 +0000 http://veryserious.org/?p=4269#comment-19686 As a kid, I definitely wouldn't have understood this. I bet I wouldn't have "gotten it" until I was about 13 or so - and by then they've taught kids about sex in school. As a kid, I definitely wouldn’t have understood this. I bet I wouldn’t have “gotten it” until I was about 13 or so – and by then they’ve taught kids about sex in school.

]]> By: phil http://veryserious.org/2009/07/09/sex-in-the-city/comment-page-1#comment-19670 phil Thu, 09 Jul 2009 16:12:24 +0000 http://veryserious.org/?p=4269#comment-19670 I think it's good if parents are forced to talk to kids about sex. You could get out of it by saying to your kid that it's telling you to do handstands. I saw the South Park puppet movie, I forget the name of it, but if you've ever seen it you know there's an extremely explicit puppet sex scene about halfway through. There was a guy there with his 7 year old daughter who was asking him "daddy what are those people doing?" I felt bad for him. I think it’s good if parents are forced to talk to kids about sex. You could get out of it by saying to your kid that it’s telling you to do handstands.

I saw the South Park puppet movie, I forget the name of it, but if you’ve ever seen it you know there’s an extremely explicit puppet sex scene about halfway through. There was a guy there with his 7 year old daughter who was asking him “daddy what are those people doing?” I felt bad for him.

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